living is easy with eyes closed...

A friend of mine recently broke up with her long term boyfriend. She said while he was at work, she packed up her stuff and moved out. Once he came home, figured out what was going on… he never even called..or texted.

What the fuck?

She’s like I think I made the right choice. 

I think you did too. 

I couldn’t imagine me packing all of my shit and Chris not calling or texting me, mad as hell. 

Situations like the one described above make me realize how lucky I am to have found a man like Chris. You know and I’m not the type to be like, “Oh, my boyfriend,” etc. I think just every so often.. it’s nice to appreciate what you have. 

30 Random Ass Things About Me Just Because I Felt Like Making a List

1. When I was 18, I registered to vote as a Republican. My mom asked me if I was sure about that decision.
2. I was baptized when I was around the age of 15 - 16 in a southern Baptist church. I used to enjoy attending church. Even though I sometimes didn’t listen to the sermon. And I never sang any of the hymns.
3. My ex-boyfriend when I was 18 was a singer. He humiliated me by making me sing in front of his friends (I can’t carry a tune for shit), saying he was going to help me learn the notes.
   This same boyfriend broke up with me through e-mail saying he wished he could change three things about me: my arms, my ability to sing and the way my eyes fluttered when I kissed him. He regretted that decision for five years as he kept trying to get me back.
4. I sometimes think I pick the worst people to make friends with. I no longer speak to my best friends from high school and rarely speak to any I claim to have made during college. 
5. The people who would’ve been good friends to me, I always disregard.
6. I like my cats more than most people.
7. I honestly do not like the majority of people that I meet. And they usually don’t like me. I’m okay with that… mostly.
8. I used to shoplift… a lot.
9. I wish I was creative enough to imagine vivid, three-dimensional characters that people can identify with (like those in Harry Potter or X-Men: First Class).
10. I’m extremely embarrassed of the person I was at UNC-Pembroke. Alcohol and drugs did a lot of strange things to my behaviour.
11. I think I want to work for Greenpeace.
12. I’m going to be one of those people who only like their children. I already know it. I am just not a kid person
13. I’m not a dog person either.
14. I’m judgmental. If I hear a person say they attend church, i automatically assume we will not get along very well. I’m sorry to be judgmental, I just like people who think like me.
15. I truly believe religion hinders people rather than helping.
16. I have idiopathic scoliosis. I was diagnosed when I was 12… BY MY DENTIST. No one else in my family has scoliosis.
17. Besides my 6 year old cousin, I’m the only left-handed person in my entire family.
18. I despise fake people who are only consumed by themselves and their immediate surroundings. 
19. I think my boyfriend’s sister is perhaps the most selfish person I have ever met in my entire life. She literally seems to think the world revolves around her and she’s 24!
20. The only thing I miss about high school is being editor of my high school newspaper. I really, really miss writing on a regular basis.
21. I used to deny being a Harry Potter fan for fear of being picked on and mocked. I am so proud of growing up with Harry now. 
22. I think the man I’m with now I may end up marrying. And I’m okay with that. Even though Rice is sort of a lame last name.
23. Moving out of my parents house has improved not only my relationship with them, but also my relationship with my siblings.
24. I wish more people my age were self-reliant.
25. I hate hearing people say “Well, I don’t need the money.” THEN WHY DID YOU GET A JOB?!
26. I wish I was a redhead.
27. If I could travel to anywhere in the world, I would pick England.
28. If I could time travel, I would pick the 60’s.
29. I want to own a VW van. They’re so fucking cool.
30. I don’t listen to the radio. Therefore my musical taste is VERY outdated… I like 70’s, 80’s and 90’s rock music.

Stigmas, Society & Sex

I have come to believe that society (and most religions) attaches an unneccessary stigma on sex.

Sex is just biological. It’s also very benefictial for you (lowers stress levels, generally improves your mood, etc — seriously, google for more facts).

Those who place that unnatural, waiting-for-my-soulmate stigma on sex are just bound to be disappointed.

I’m not saying sleep with everyone, by no means, but waiting until you are the age of 27 - 30 to have sex for the first time… or insisting that you lose virginity ONLY after being married… is a bit ridiculous. It’s unrealistic and it certainly can’t be healthy.

I say this because after losing your virginity, no rational, sexually mature adult is going to go months without engaging in intercourse. And they shouldn’t be expected to.

Sex is biological.

Maybe stating my beliefs on sex, society and stigmas makes me sound a fair bit loose. But I have raise no objections to consensual sex between adults, whether they be one night stands or relationships.

And maybe, if said people were to stop placing such a crucial stigma on sex, if people could accept sex as a biological and enjoyable thing… we could stop attaching this unrealistic soulmate, hopeless romantic attitude to any relationship we engage in.

Maybe said people would stop setting themselves up for failure in the relationship area of their lives. They would stop thinking only one person exists for them and see that love is something that is not limited to one individual. You can fall in love with multiple people during the course of a lifetime… but that relationship may not always be the one to last.