A friend of mine recently broke up with her long term boyfriend. She said while he was at work, she packed up her stuff and moved out. Once he came home, figured out what was going on… he never even called..or texted.
What the fuck?
She’s like I think I made the right choice.
I think you did too.
I couldn’t imagine me packing all of my shit and Chris not calling or texting me, mad as hell.
Situations like the one described above make me realize how lucky I am to have found a man like Chris. You know and I’m not the type to be like, “Oh, my boyfriend,” etc. I think just every so often.. it’s nice to appreciate what you have.
I have come to believe that society (and most religions) attaches an unneccessary stigma on sex.
Sex is just biological. It’s also very benefictial for you (lowers stress levels, generally improves your mood, etc — seriously, google for more facts).
Those who place that unnatural, waiting-for-my-soulmate stigma on sex are just bound to be disappointed.
I’m not saying sleep with everyone, by no means, but waiting until you are the age of 27 - 30 to have sex for the first time… or insisting that you lose virginity ONLY after being married… is a bit ridiculous. It’s unrealistic and it certainly can’t be healthy.
I say this because after losing your virginity, no rational, sexually mature adult is going to go months without engaging in intercourse. And they shouldn’t be expected to.
Sex is biological.
Maybe stating my beliefs on sex, society and stigmas makes me sound a fair bit loose. But I have raise no objections to consensual sex between adults, whether they be one night stands or relationships.
And maybe, if said people were to stop placing such a crucial stigma on sex, if people could accept sex as a biological and enjoyable thing… we could stop attaching this unrealistic soulmate, hopeless romantic attitude to any relationship we engage in.
Maybe said people would stop setting themselves up for failure in the relationship area of their lives. They would stop thinking only one person exists for them and see that love is something that is not limited to one individual. You can fall in love with multiple people during the course of a lifetime… but that relationship may not always be the one to last.